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Prayer as Argument

My gangly bird legs stretched out in front of me and I watched my tennies rock back and forth, scraping over sandy dirt like windshield wipers. I alternated between note-taking and doodling, then shifted again, trying my best not to roll right off the log into a dead sleep.

As my mind began to wander toward the lake and a free afternoon, the Charlie-Brown-teacher-drone voice broke into clear syllables and I froze.

Did she just say Willingham? What on earth is she talking about?

Remain calm. Look casual. No sudden moves.

“The Willinghams are a perfect example,” she told my group. “I like to think of them as the ‘Yelling Family.’”

The umm, what?

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Under a Shared Umbrella (guest post by Jennifer Dukes Lee)

A few weeks ago I slid into the back pew of a little church in northwest Iowa and chuckled watching a crazy Jesus-loving pirate sing and shout in worship with the kids as the night’s VBS program came to a close. A leader came over to introduce herself and wondered what brought me there and how I knew Jennifer Lee.

I swallowed chalk, opened my mouth to answer, and closed it again when nothing came out.

Finally, I stammered, “She’s a blogging friend.”

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The Chicken Story (Part III)

Grandpa and his watermelons, circa. 1915

The Chicken Part of the Chicken Story

When I asked my granddad to record The Chicken Story so I could post it here, I expected he’d be able to get me just a short anecdote, on paper. Better than that, my dad set him up with a digital recorder, and instead of just my favorite story about chickens, I got a wonderful narrative history of his twelfth birthday, his first paying job (50 cents a day), and a slice of life in the early quarter of the twentieth century.

In the process of transcribing the story, I discovered Grandpa recorded the story for me not just once, but twice, each version just a little different and told as fresh as though the events happened yesterday. These posts have attempted to blend the best of the two.

Today we get to the punch line, and the chickens. Or, rather, the chicken. Singular.

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The Chicken Story (Part II)

A doorknob makes a good hammer, if you can’t find a screwdriver

Yesterday, I introduced you to the Willingham clan’s patriarch, R. A. Willingham, Sr., or as we know him, Grandpa. Or Grandpa Al. Or Grandpa George. Even though the R. in R. A. doesn’t stand for George.

My dad emailed last night with a few more details to fill out Grandpa’s CV:

Your grandpa had one of the top Boy Scout troops in the city of Chicago. The troop was in danger being disbanded before he took over.  My cousin Norman was a member of that troop and said that he was the best scoutleader he had ever had.

He once told me that his dad told him, “a door knob makes a good hammer, if you can’t find a screwdriver.”

He probably has held every office that churches require, including Sunday School teacher, deacon, elder, and Sunday School superintendent.  He took the office of elder seriously and willingly would fill the pulpit in the absence of the pastor.

He played the inn keeper in the Christmas pageant at Maplewood Baptist (Chicago) when I was about eight years old.  He grew a big dark black beard just for the show.

He and grandma Edna were also instrumental in starting a church in Oregon, IL.

With that, I’ll give you Part II of The Chicken Story. If you didn’t read yesterday’s “guest post from a 102-year-old guy,” click back to do so and learn that a fella can never have too many hankies. And stop back tomorrow, when we’ll get to talking about chickens and the punchline of the story.

That’s why they call ‘em hamburgers

by Al Willingham

Grandpa and Grandma outside the dorm at Minnesota Bible College, Minneapolis MN, circa. 1950s

A grocery store in those days was a far cry from what we think of with a grocery store today. In many respects a grocery store today has many of the same features. Most grocery stores sell everything. You buy stationery, you buy stuff for your kitchen, there’s a pharmacy and so on and so forth.

‘Course they didn’t have pharmacies in that time. The doctor was his own pharmacist. He fixed his own medicine. And incidentally, the medicines that they gave me to take were liquid. And I’m telling you, after about two doses of their liquid medicine you got well in a hurry so you didn’t have to take any more. You might have needed it but you didn’t want any more.

Anyhow, [my uncle's] store was sort of a general store. There was a certain amount of clothing and dishes and odds and ends. But instead of you taking a basket and going around the store and picking up what you wanted, you went to a place called a counter and he or one of his two clerks would stand with a little sales tab in his hand. If you wanted some rice he’d write that down, and after four or five items he’d go and get them and lay them on the counter. Then he’d go get whatever else it was you wanted and take care of you.

A little money exchanged in that store. People would say “Well I do my tradin’ over at Val’s.” My uncle had a peculiar name, his name was Valentiny. He was born on Valentine’s Day. As soon as he grew up a little he changed his name to Val.

He bought everything he could in bulk. Sugar came in a barrel. Flour came in sacks. He’d buy a car load of flour at a time and half a car load of sugar. One of my jobs in the store was to sack up the sugar and keep it on the shelf ahead of time. He’d put it up in one and five pound bags, stiff brown bags that they sacked it up in. And he showed me how to sack it up to get just exactly one pound and twist the end and tie it with a string that came off a ball that hung on the ceiling. My job was to see that the sugar counter was always well filled because that was one of the popular things.

Grandpa and Lil with Isaac, circa. 1998

The automobile was just coming into town and I mean probably one in 20 residents had a car. But he had a gas pump out there and it was my duty to fill up a tank of gas. The tank had marks on the side of it so you’d fill it up full and then drain it down into the car that you were servicing. And I think at that time gas was probably maybe ten or eleven cents a gallon.

My other duty was just to see to it that the papers and things were picked up off of the floor and keep the place as neat as possible. Next door was a butcher shop that was part of the store but had a separate entrance from inside and outside. One of Val’s brothers operated the butcher shop. I was also to keep that place tidy. I’d be responsible for checking into the meat market, and if there was any droppings on the floor I was supposed to pick them up. They kept sawdust on the floor and once a week they’d change it. Otherwise they just kept adding sawdust during the week.

They made deliveries to people in town all week. People would call in and they’d want pork chops for dinner. He had a route that would get delivered by 11:00 so the lady of the house could have dinner ready when most everyone went home for lunch.

Val was very popular in town. His store was located at a place called Five Points. If you asked where some part of town was, being a stranger, they’d say, “Do you know where Five Points is?”

“Oh yeah, I know where Five Points is.”

“Oh well, you go six blocks east from there and four blocks south and you’ll find the place that you’re looking for.”

Val owned all five corners. There was a blacksmith shop and sort of a general storage place, and then he had what they called this stand. It was the beginning of McDonalds. They  would fry up sandwiches —  called ‘em hamburgers because they would mix beef and pork together. That’s how hamburgers got their name.

Grandpa and Grandma (left) with friends

And this little store sold chewing gum and candy and perhaps other sandwiches I don’t remember. Coca Cola was just getting into the business and they had Coca Cola and cream soda and it seems like there was three or four others. You had a little container and you dropped a dime in there and you could slide the bottle over to a certain place. If the dime went through and released a lock and you could get the bottle out.

- to be continued -

The Chicken Story (Part I)

Grandpa and Grandma, circa. 1950-ish

A Guest Post by Grandpa Al Willingham

Two years ago family scooted down church pews while my granddad sidled up to a microphone. He’d been preparing his birthday speech for a long time. Years, I think. He rustled a few note cards between his fingers, but it seemed they were there just to put something in his hands. I noticed after the first two or three he never looked at them again.

We sat riveted, hardly breathing unless it was to fuel the next belly laugh. Partly because it was Grandpa, and he always captivates. But partly, I think, it was never having heard a 100-year-old guy deliver a monologue. For nearly an hour, he cracked jokes, told stories and passed out sage advice to a room full of friends, children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. That year in his Christmas letter he observed that he’d been told the first 100 years were the toughest. He was looking forward to the next 100. He’s now two years into that second century.

My grandpa raised a family in wartime. He worked through the Great Depression, never out of a job more than two weeks at a time I’m told. He’s buried two beautiful wives and more friends than a guy should have to. He’s seen things I can only imagine.

Grandpa Al is Rock solid, passing down a heritage of loving and serving Jesus that could cause the best Baptists I know to covet. He served as chairman of his church’s elder board into his 90s and can still fix anything with a little prayer,  duct tape and baling twine.

I asked Grandpa if he’d help me complete four generations in this place. (My dad posts regularly, and Isaac guested here once last year.) Remembering a favorite story from the birthday party, I wondered if he and Dad could get it onto paper for me.

They did me one better. They puttered around with a digital recorder and for the next couple of days, we have the results of that here. I edited very little so you can get the feel for Grandpa’s conversation. In Part I, Grandpa sets the stage for the times with the sure sign of coming of age: he wore long pants at age twelve. In Part II, he describes his uncle’s grocery store where he held his first job off the farm. And in Part III, he tells a story of chickens, customers, and lessons learned about honesty.

All About Chickens and Chicken Soup and So Forth

Grandpa in 1912, not quite old enough to work

In order for you to understand the situation at the time, I was in my early youth. Upon reaching twelve, you lost your childhood one day and the next day you were supposed to be a man, a tradition handed down for many years from the Jewish people.

On my twelfth birthday — I had never had a birthday party before — I came home from school and nobody was home. I started doing the normal chores assigned to me. I got mine all done and started in on the ones that my dad would be doing.

Mother and Dad showed up along with a couple of cousins of mine from town and Dad and I continued with the chores. We got back to the house and it was supper time but I didn’t see any evidence of supper. I had noticed my dad had been carrying some wood into the front part of the house and I wondered what that was all about.

We had a peculiar house that had two huge living rooms. One was called the parlor and that’s where you put your best furniture. And when you had company you used the other sittin’ room. That was the showplace. You also had a parlor bedroom where the fancy bedclothes were on the bed and the bed never got used.

She’d made several trips in there and I wondered what that was all about. Finally she sent me in there to get a book of some kind out of the small library that we had. Lo and behold, the house was full of people from my school. I think all of my school chums or associates were there. I was attending a one-room school and we had about 20 students first through eighth grade. They immediately started singing happy birthday to me, something that was a total surprise to me.

Birthday parties had never been celebrated as far as I knew in my family. And of course they all brought gifts, not a very wide variety but I got about ten or twelve red bandana handkerchiefs and some more delicate ones presumably from the girls. After the presents were all open, my mother brought me in my present.

Mother and dad served them ice cream and cake – and ice cream was a real treat back in those days. You had an old freezer you made it with and you turned a crank until you couldn’t turn it anymore. You packed it with ice, and ice was also pretty much of a new thing they had learned how to make ice in the big city of Charleston. We lived about six miles from there. Anyhow we had that fun, and after everyone left then my Mother brought out a big package for me and it turned out it was my long pants suit true to tradition.

The dress code in those days for boys was knee pants or knickers, long black socks, a blouse and either a homemade knit sweater or jacket. I’m talking about Sunday-Go-to-Meetin’ clothes now. After you were twelve years old the dress code changed. Boys wore long pants, regular type suit, shirt and tie, white shirt and tie, and then that was designated as your Sunday-Go-to-Meetin’ clothes.

Maybe the oldest NBA fan out there, Grandpa saw the Heat and T-Wolves play for his 100th birthday

My mother was ill most of my life. Well, she lived anyhow. She thought since I was growing up now I should have a little business training. She had a  brother that had a little grocery store in town. She conned him into allowing me to work on Saturdays for six weeks. The reason for the six weeks was that during that six weeks spring was coming along and there wasn’t much to do on the farm. By the end of the six weeks they would be starting to prepare the soil for planting and they would require me to be one of the helpers.

So I rode horse back into town. The store opened at 6:30 in the morning. My uncle was just coming across the street when I arrived on horseback. He showed me where I could put my horse where she’d be in the shade, and gave me a bucket of water to sit beside her. I could change the bucket at noon. I thought it was very thoughtful of him.

-to be continued-

Inside Out

I forget how many months ago a friend sent me an email, brief and to the point:

Been reading your stuff. What’s up?

This friend, she’s one of those rare finds who gets my heart. Back in another time, we often met over tea with lemon (once, I drank tea) at a restaurant I can’t remember or a dripping chocolate malt at Snuffy’s Malt Shop in St. Paul where we plunged the depths of Ezekiel and Hebrews and really, what’s the deal with Melchizedek?

She still gets my heart, even though we live across the country and I’m weeks behind on our email study of The Trivialization of God.

So when she notices things, I know enough to pay attention.

I asked her then what she meant. Her response was nearly as brief as her first observation:

I don’t know writing, I’m a scientist. But your heart’s not in it.

True enough.

She’d nailed it.

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Sleeves, frankly, are too perilous a place to wear one’s heart, and I keep mine nicely guarded inside a warm fleece hoody. I like to think I posture and pose pretty well. And what better place but writing to do that? We measure our words, reveal only what we want to, hold tight what we want to keep.

And readers? They see the words. Not the heart.

They see what we want them to see.

As long as I’m careful, there’s no way to tell whether I’m laughing or crying when I put words to the page.

Right?

No, wrong.

My friend the scientist says wrong.

Julia Cameron says wrong.

Readers know these things.

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As we wrap up the discussion of Julia Cameron’s Right to Write over at High Calling Blogs this week, I find her stretching me, pushing at me to raise the stakes. Keep my heart in the writing.

When people wonder what makes some writing readable and other writing less so, they are centering on the issues of stakes. Stakes are the answer to the question, “Why should I care?” The best answer to “Why should I care” is always “Because it matters very very much. (p. 215)

What the scientist noticed about my writing is that I had stepped out of it. I was trying some things, stupid things, things designed to run a little more traffic in the direction of my blog, but things that ultimately took my heart right off the page. (Which, if I stopped to think about it, would have the very opposite effect.)

Cameron observes that to expect you to be invested in what you’re reading, I had to invest in writing it.

“When a writer writes from the heart of what matters to him personally, the writing is often both personal and powerful. When a writer writes what he thinks the market needs — writes, in other words, without a personal investment — the standard of writing is often lowered along with the stakes.

Part of our duty as writers is to do the work of honestly determining what matters to us and to try to write about that. This may take a certain amount of courage. This may mean that we do not meet with immediate support from those who make decisions with an eye to the market. (p. 219)

Here in my smallish corner of the world, the market means little to me anymore. It did, briefly. And while it did, writing was work and got reactions like “What’s up?”

I’d be dishonest to say I don’t ever look at the numbers underneath. But the numbers don’t drive the writing; they’re just one way to help tell me if I’m getting the job done or not.

I’m afraid I still keep my heart safely tucked away most of the time, at least the larger part of it. Now and again if you’re paying attention you’ll see it slip out around a frayed cuff. But most of the time what I’m writing is at least coming from that part of me. It’s training my writing around what Cameron would call writing “from the inside out rather than the outside in.” (p. 220)

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Perhaps a delight to many of you, we conclude the book discussion over at HCB this week. But you can still read up if you’d like. See Laura’s new post on Monday with links to the other participants.

As a reward for your patient indulgence throughout this diversion, I’ll be quiet most of the rest of this week. I’m putting the last touches on a three-part guest post from my granddad. At 102 years old, he nearly has a foot in three centuries. And he was telling stories long before Al Gore invented the Internet. I’m hoping to get one up for you shortly, so be sure to stop back for (until I’m proven otherwise) the only place on the web where you can read a guest post from a centenarian.

Photo: Inside Old House by Piotr Rudziewicz via Stock.xchng

Why It’s Okay if My Church Isn’t Hip

It’s a Sunday morning moment I’ve come to expect like the certainty of the rising sun.

I look forward to it, really.

She charges through the double doors from the foyer into the the sanctuary thrashing her walker. Though it’s designed to aid her steps, it seems no more than a pesky obstruction to the day’s Mission: Critical.

“Helllooo,” she calls once she’s barely past the threshold.

“Good morning to you,” I shout back, though we’re nearly arm’s length away. I made the mistake one morning of not responding, lost as I was in my work in the media booth. I thought she’d spoken to someone else.

She hadn’t.

She let me know.

I haven’t missed a Sunday morning greeting since.

Now, when she comes in before the rest of the Sunday School crowd and makes her way to the library to reload her books for the week, I always stop dropping images and text into their boxes and turn to visit. And I make sure I have my poker face firmly in place. Because I never know what’s coming next.

A few weeks ago, it went something like this:

“Who are you?” she demanded.

“It’s me, Lyla. Just like always,” I smiled.

“Oh. Well. It’s just that you look so . . . strange.”

“I’m sorry. I’ll get a haircut this week.”

And then the next week:

“Who are you?”

“It’s me, Lyla, just like always.”

Always? Are you always here? What time do you come here?”

“Usually around 7:30 or so.”

“Why? What do you do in that little space so early in the morning?”

“I’m getting the slides ready for the music and Pastor’s sermon this morning.”

“Oh. Well. It’s just that you look so . . . strange.”

“I know. I’m working on that haircut.”

By last week, I’d worked out the haircut thing and didn’t have to introduce myself. She stopped her march to the library abruptly, pausing to look at the screen where I still had a slide hanging to remind parents to pick up a devotional booklet for their young kids.

“Oh dear. I’m afraid I haven’t read mine lately,” she said, shaking her head. “You know, I can’t seem to do it.”

“Well,” I said, “it seems to me that you have it all right where you need it.” And I tapped my chest.

She leaned her frailty hard into the walker and hung her head. “Oh, I just don’t know anymore.”

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I watched her shoulders slump, and remembered this sweet but feisty character. Once when I was on the church’s staff she recruited me as her co-conspirator to break into the pastor’s office to retrieve a telephone number she was sure he had. She pressed me when I reported back after my covert operation that I’d glanced at his desk and didn’t see it.

“Well, did you look in his desk drawers then?”

“No, I didn’t think I should,” I said.

“Good. I wouldn’t have either. But I wanted to know if you would.”

And I thought back to the time we brought her apples from our tree because I didn’t know what to do with them and baking brought her so much joy.

We had no idea she’d be calling hours later insisting that we come to her apartment right now to pick up those nine pies because she needed her cooling racks for the next nine, and how soon could we pick up that next batch because she had things to do you know?

She’s preached me Jesus more times than I can count.

And I’m pretty sure I’ve felt the earth tremble under my feet when she’s asked God to move.

She’s a rock. The last standing of a generation of her family that piled stones together as the foundation of my church.

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To hear her exhale resignation there at the library door, held up by an apparatus she despises, my heart may have paused for a beat.

“Hey,” I said, “You listen to me. It’s here. Right here.” I made a fist and rapped my chest hard this time. “You know that.”

She looked back up, met me with weary eyes and said, “Yes, well, maybe it is still in my heart.”

And with that, she rolled the walker into the library.

I turned back to the keyboard and continued typing where I’d left off.

Be still, my soul:
thy God doth undertake
To guide the future,
as He has the past.
Thy hope, thy confidence
let nothing shake;
All now mysterious
shall be bright at last.

I looked out at the congregation that morning, my perch giving me a rare view of the lot of them from the back. I saw silver hair and no hair, pony tails and buzz cuts, blue jeans and t-shirts, dresses and suits, walkers, canes and sippy cups.

And I remembered how much I love my church, a family with whom I’ve walked through fire and flood. We’re small, and we’re regular folks, a mix of farmer and doctor, educator and businessman, stay-at-home and work-away.

We still have pews, though they’re padded. Our praise team is fledgling, staffed with teenagers and retirees and amateur musicians who just love to worship their King. We have one service, and it’s still on Sunday morning. My pastor wears a tie instead of ripped jeans and a v-neck. And we start every service from the hymnal.

We’re not hip.

And that’s okay.

Because if my church were hip, I know one humble servant I’d never see on a Sunday morning.

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Photo: Lonely Soul by Wendy Swallis via Stock.xchng
Be Still My Soul, Katharina Von Schlegel, Public Domain

Worth It

In the claims world we use the word deconditioned as something of a neutral word to describe the occasional physical traits of an injured person who is, well, deconditioned.

A few weeks ago it was my deconditioned carcass that I dragged up the hill for an invigorating walk outside our vacation rental in the western South Dakota pines a few weeks ago. The walk hadn’t done me in, but the not-like-mine bed had. So when JP wanted to get up early for a bike ride, I took him up on it. By the time early came, I’d already been awake a couple of hours.

We grunted into the morning quiet as we hoisted two bikes off the garage ceiling and then we were off. JP quickly left me behind as he tore up the hill, nearly reaching the crest before he had to dismount and walk the last few feet. (Though he’ll say it was to wait for me.) And as for me, I nearly made it to the base of the hill before I climbed off and pushed the bike and my deconditioned self to the top to meet him.

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We chatted in the cool of the day, punctuated with my labored wheezes.

Did you ever go out with anybody before Dad?

Yep.

Was he an athlete?

Yep.

Anybody else?

Yep.

Was he an athlete?

Nope.

What was he?

Musician.

And you picked Dad?

Yep. Glad I did. Aren’t you?

How come you’re the youngest in your family but you have the oldest kid?

Dunno. Worked out that way.

But you weren’t the first to get married.

Nope.

How come everybody in your family was so old when they had kids?

Guess none of us were in a hurry.

Did Grandma and Grandpa make you wait that long?

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We crested the hill, me gasping, him interrogating. And it was all downhill from there.

We remounted the bikes, held on and let go.

Wind and gravity stretched my cheeks back to my ears making my eyes water while the air rushed through my hair. I resisted squeezing the brakes even as I heard his exhilarated Woo hoo! far ahead of me on the road.

Half a mile later, we coasted back up the last tiny slope to the house.

At the top, JP shook his head.

Going up that hill was awful, Mom. But that ride down?

Totally worth it.

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Photo: The hill, in the woods near Deadwood, SD.
 (Funny, I remember it running straight up.)

Could Use a Little Truth Over Here

I twisted a little in the chair and felt my shoulders pull in tight. The edges were fuzzy, but the conversation was starting to come back to me in pieces as I sat at the kitchen table drafting a report into the evening hours.

I said that?

I wanted to be sure, so I texted her.

Did I really say there was a third brother?

Yes, she answered back. I think you did.

Blast.

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Fresh from ten-plus days at the edge of night with Heman, my heart felt a little achy and exposed. I probably should have taken a nap. Instead, I let my mind loose on the playground a little longer, until it hung upside down on the monkey bars of one question: Did Heman’s light ever come back on, or did his world stay dark until the end?

Earlier that morning, our adult class spent some time on the swing set of Luke 15. We looked at the brother that went all wild, exhausting the riches stashed in his pockets from his father only to be washed away in an even wilder grace that rushed him while he was still on the road to home.

And we looked at the brother who witnessed redemption and seethed, angry that grace should be so crazy and not better measured.

We thought together that much of the time, we find ourselves to be one brother, or perhaps the other.

But that afternoon, in my petulant brooding, I determined to be neither.

There was a third brother, I barely recall saying. The brother nobody talks about. The father built a shed out back and put the third brother in it because they didn’t know what else to do. That’s the brother that is me.

Here in the light of day, that’s outrageous. And even as the words appear in front of me on the screen, my stomach goes soft and my shoulders clamp tight, and shame drips down around my neck.

I’ve just rewritten words that drew life from His lungs.

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But I stop, and consider. While in adding a new chapter to His parable I may have been less nuanced than usual, I see I am a revisionist through and through.

I footnote and annotate and asterisk where His Word clearly stands on its own. Yet I feel compelled to qualify His truth and articulate the provisions that might just not apply to me.

Why must I think I stand outside the reach of His unrelenting mercy?

Where did He ever say such a thing?

And when will I cease to deny the power of the Gospel with my slimy, proud disbelief?

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I stood some feet away and looked at the Word, still open to 88, to Heman’s painful cries of anguish from a dark place. And I asked Him, quiet, not to ask me to go there again. Please. Let’s move on.

He smiled, it seemed, and so I took to my place on the floor and turned pages. In mere moments I rejoiced over the Rock of my salvation right there in 95, just like it had been waiting for me to arrive.

And mere moments later, I doubled over as though sucker punched.

I wasn’t. God doesn’t do that.

But it felt so all the same.

This song of rejoicing, it ended badly. It was Heman and his bestie the darkness all over again.

They shall never enter My rest.” (95:11)

Was this the answer to my jungle gym question? When I wonder if Heman died in the dark (and by implication how that might have anything to do with me), this is what I hear in response?

“They shall never enter My rest.”

Quick, read backward. Read backward. Read backward. Hurry!

I read backward a lot. What did He say before that?

What He said was do not harden your hearts.” (95:8)

I slumped back and let out a long draw of air.

You know what is true. But you harden your heart against it. So yes, it will be tiresome and dark and you will not rest. Not until your heart is soft and you take the truth as it is written and stop writing your own.

You will not rest until your heart is soft enough to believe that when He said it is finished then it really is. And when He says He is enough then He really is.

And so, yes, I know what is true. I know it is finished and He is enough and grace doesn’t run out and mercy reaches me.

I know.

Oh, how I know.

And oh, how I forget.

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So how would you like to help me out today? Because I could sure use a little truth over here.

Tell me some truth.

The rules are simple:

  1. It has to be the truth. That is, God has to have said it in His pages.
  2. It has to be the truth. That is, I don’t need an ego boost; I need Jesus.
  3. It has to be the truth. That is, unqualified, no-asterisk, straight-up truth.

Here’s your chance to “give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have.” (1 Peter 3:15)

Ready to preach me some Gospel? Go!

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Photo: sad swing by Jonathan Malm via Stock.xchng

88: God’s Dark, Messy, Painful Gift

Last week when I suggested you might like to pull into a space and put the car in park for seven days, letting God speak out of the same place over and over and over, I thought it a good idea to pick a new place to park myself. I’d hardly worn a path through Psalm 84 in the ten days I wandered there, but it was time nonetheless.

Neck deep in Matt Woodley’s anguished chapter on “Prayer as Mystery” (The Folly of Prayer: Practicing the Presence and Absence of God), I turned the page over to 88, a psalm of lament from Heman the Ezrahite. And I wondered why God would find it brilliant for me to hang out for any length of time in this seething black pit of despair.

Still, that’s where God pointed; that’s where I’d stay. The lights have burned brightly of late, and it seemed harmless enough. Strange, though, to try to engage a lament when, at the present moment, one doesn’t feel particularly sorrowful.

Enter the benefit of a seven-day stay: Stick around long enough, and it works its way through you.

The Word is like that.

The first couple of days were easy. Oh, look, I thought. Even in his anguish, the psalmist knew that darkness comes from God’s absence — real or perceived. He knows only God will bring him light and life. Good job, Heman. I patted Heman the psalmist on the head and gave him an attaboy for his display of maturity in the midst of despair.

But as the week wore on, my condescension toward the Ezrahite faded and instead I poked at him a little with my elbow, nudging him over so I could take a seat with him there in the dark.

I wanted to keep playing the psalm like a continuous loop recording. I’d see Heman get to the end and barely gasp out the final words, “You have taken my companions and loved ones from me; the darkness is my closest friend.” And every time, my eyes raced back up to the opening words of his lament before the darkness could catch hold, “O Lord, the God who saves me, day and night I cry out before you.”

Twice more during the psalm he would declare his trust, reminding God he was there crying out to Him, morning after morning. But Heman didn’t end at the beginning, hoping in the God who saves him. Heman penned the last words still drowning in his pain.

He experienced no rescue, no comfort, no relief.

Woodley observes that 88 breaks the rules:

Every other psalm of lament eventually returns to hope and trust in God. The psalmist cries out to God in his pain; he even yells and argues with God. But the prayer softens as he calmly proclaims, “But still I will trust you, God.” Psalm 88 is the exception to that pattern. In this prayer the psalmist cries out to God; he’s sincere; he believes the right things about God — but help doesn’t seem to come.   . . . This prayer trails off in unresolved tension, doubt, hurt, anguish and mystery.” (The Folly of Prayer, page 58, emphasis added)

After one day’s reading, I noted in my margin, Rinse, repeat, as though by just going back to the start desperate Heman’s darkness would dispel.

And, perhaps, might mine.

Another day I reminded myself to fight back the darkness. You can do better than Heman, I thought. Just fight it back.

When the psalmist observed that he had been “set apart with the dead” and wondered aloud if God would show Himself to the dead, or if the dead could rise to praise Him or even if His wonders could be “known in the place of darkness,” I remembered that God can make the darkness itself shine. As though to argue with Heman, I scrawled 139 in the margin. Remember Heman? Remember that?

And then one day I looked to the left hand column in my text. I often switch over to my second language, my favorite language, when God and I meet up. For reasons I don’t yet understand, I give God more freedom to speak to my heart there. And my soul seems to reach into a richer, but more raw honesty with Him.

As I look back at my margin scrawl, I notice it was then that I stopped talking to Heman and started talking to me. No more patronizing, no more chastising the lamenting psalmist. When he cried out Ya no puedo más (I can’t do it anymore), I responded in kind: Yo me siento así (I feel like that). I too lamented about close friendship with tinieblas (darkness) and the oscuridad (blackness) that seemed to fill me.

I listened to my heart a while, and felt my anger rise on about Day 5 that Heman would leave the psalm ending this way.

The darkness didn’t lift. God didn’t answer.

It didn’t resolve.

But when I quit trying to fix the psalmist, and when I let go trying to force light and resolution on him, I saw what Matt Woodley was talking about. In 88 God gave us unanswered prayer.

He gave us His silence.

And He lets us live with it.

Woodley says this:

God views the mystery of unanswered prayer with the utmost seriousness. God doesn’t fear my questions and dark emotions. God even provides the words I need to express my agony back to him. (p. 59)

88 lets us believe that sometimes, even though we believe right, think right, live right, we’ll still come face to face with the tinieblas. 88 gives us a framework to believe that we can say these things to God. His own hot breath penned these words through His servant Heman.

And in so doing, Woodley tells us, that “Psalm 88 is God’s dark, messy, painful gift to us.” (p. 58)

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This post attempts to capture my latest 7-Days-in-a-Psalm experience. Last week we talked about trying this, letting God speak from the same place for seven days in a row. If you took a crack at it, we’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment box. (If you posted at your own place, let me know and we’ll link you here.)

What did God say? Did you notice a progression over the week’s time? What did you find difficult? What did you find sweet?

And how do you feel about this unresolved lament, this “dark, messy, painful gift” God gave us in Psalm 88?

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For starters, check these out:

Thanks everybody! Your thoughts encourage me!

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